My sister Jessica and I were chatting this morning, discussing our childhood and our recent visit to see our father.  She used the term "gaslighting" to describe what our father does to me (us). I wasn't sure what that term meant, I've heard it before but I've never used it in a sentence or really thought much of it until she said it to me again.  I looked it up, and low and behold that is my father to a tee.  I don't know if he even knows he's doing it though, which would make him far less "evil" right?  But what if he does know?  It's a scary thought.   I won't get into the nitty-gritty of my past, but this is some food for thought for sure.

I don't like posting about my past to much, as I don't want to hurt someone's feelings if they happen to come across it.  But watching my BABY sister be more open and honest, gives me a little courage.


Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction, and misinformation, gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's beliefs. Instances can range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents occurred, to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.


  1. People who gaslight are narcissists. They cannot change. Putting a name to their abusive behavior doesn't name it less evil. Of course they know what they are doing. Now that you know, you can learn how to react to it. Keep going with your healthy boundaries.


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