Thursday, May 21, 2020

My Jessica.

It's hard watching your family go through difficult times, especially when there is no way you could possibly help them.  All you can do is listen to them and offer a shoulder to cry on, a warm meal and a safe bed if they need it.

When you are in the middle of an unhealthy relationship, everything is unhealthy.  You are, your children are, your parents are.  The relationship you have with people is strained, and not just people outside the home but the people inside your home too.  You struggle to connect with your children because you are in an abusive relationship and you cannot see clearly.  You are in a constant state of "fixing", apologizing, fighting, or just picking up the pieces.  Sometimes you fall into this type of relationship because you witness it in your own life, prior to being married and having children.  There is no good excuse for allowing abuse in your home-but the mind is sick and unhealthy just like the relationship, just like the person causing the pain.  The sickness runs deep and is contagious.  It takes a strong person to say, enough and to no longer care that everyone is going to know what you've been dealing with-what your children have been dealing with.  Judging you for not leaving sooner, or for leaving at all and not fighting harder.  You have to remove the pride, remove the anger, and remove the sadness just to get through every single day after you leave.  To get healthy, to not be "sick" anymore and for your children not to be sick anymore.

My sister Jessica ( has broken the cycle of violence in her unhealthy home.  The evening that she made that decision was frightening and painful for not only her, but her two young daughters.  They had to flee their home for safety.  Something I know all about, doing that myself back when my two oldest children were very young.

I cannot tell you how proud I am of my baby sister for breaking her chain and the chains of her girls.  Way to go beautiful girl-there you go now!!

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