Sexy Selfies & Social Media

For years and years now, since I started really getting into photography I have struggled to find a muse - just someone I can keep my skills sharpened in both photography and editing.  I have found several girls along the way (ladies) but they have moved away or the dreaded grown up and started having their own I have relied upon myself to "model" for me from time to time, when things got desperate.  The problem is, taking selfies with a professional camera can prove to be a challenge.

Sure I can set up the camera on a tripod and use a wireless remote or a timer, but the challenge isn't that - it's finding the right flattering angle for the look I am going for.  This is something the tripod doesn't really allow for - not easily at least.  Sure I can do some weird yoga pose with my tripod but it just never seems to work out like I want it to for one reason or another.

Earlier in the year, I bought a white lace dress - totally lace off Amazon for under $20.  The entire dress is sheer as you can imagine and rather sexy.  My goal was to talk someone into wearing it and us doing a fake wedding in it.  Those plans never did develop past the buying of the dress & finding the model stage.  And so the dress just sits in my office - waiting.

Not only would this dress be great for a fake wedding - but it would also be great for a boudoir session due to the sheerness of the fabric and the cut of the dress.  So one late afternoon, while I was at the house alone I slipped the dress on and took a few iPhone selfies.  Now mind you, my face isn't in these images - but they actually turned out way better then I imagined they would.  I actually like them & would love to share them on social media - but maybe that would be weird seeing how my parents and other extended family members are on social media.

Oh the dilemma.  I mean, my husbands family is on social media as well as other people that I may not want judging me for my photo selection.  But I also am part of a social media group that celebrates the woman's body especially and more importantly the woman's body that isn't "perfect" by social standards - someone that has weight on them - someone fat, like me.  And in these pictures, I do not feel fat, I feel sexy & beautiful!

I feel like maybe this is my direction, my new direction in life.  Doing documentary family sessions and life-style boudoir sessions.  My passions are being realized more so after quitting on my business - how odd is that, but that is another point entirely.

What would you do?

xoxo, Lela


The other day, when I was at my dads house - we were having a typical visit-nothing major, just talking to each other about normal things.  I had brought Olivia with me, because Savannah was visiting and I thought the girls would enjoy spending a little time together.  Before we arrived, Olivia and I had stopped by the lake to take her four year old photos & when we arrived, the girls saw each other & Savannah asked if Olivia could swim.  We changed the girls into bathing suits and let them have at it, and while they were swimming - my dad, myself & my step mom were doing what I started the blog post saying - talking about nothing.

Olivia is getting onto Savannah while we are conversing, saying "stop that Savannah" and "you're getting the pool all dirty" "stop spraying me with the hose".....and my dad blurts out "Olivia is kind of a sissy isn't she?".  At that moment, I went from being average in my feelings about being there talking to him to just pissed off.  It never fails that every, single, time I visit this man, he has to some how put down or talk down to or about my children.  I don't understand it, I really don't.  Perhaps he feels my sister's children are some how superior to mine because they don't mind getting dirty or having water sprayed into their eyes, I have no idea.  But seriously, my daughter is a sissy because she didn't want someone to throw dirt in her face, spray the water hose into her eyes or swim in a muddy pool?

Olivia is the youngest, and so I have heard this shit from him since 1990.  And by writing this blog post I am not saying that any of my siblings children are superior or inferior to my own.  I am only stating my feelings as I have listened to this as I said before, a long ass time.  And I won't repeat on my blog at this moment, the stupid inaccurate remarks he used to say was "wrong" with my first two born children.

I would also like to state, for the record - I do not think if you like to be clean this doesn't make you a sissy!

Oh and then there is this:

  1. 1.
    a person regarded as effeminate or cowardly.
  1. 1.
    feeble and cowardly.
    "sissy manners"

Happy Four

This little sweet face is turning four years old in two days, that's right FOUR YEARS OLD!  Can you believe it?  I just love her so much, she really is a joy!  I cannot wait to celebrate with her and the family.  We don't have anything major planned - but what we do have planned promises to be fun and filled with lots of hugs, kisses & love.....


In just 4 short days, this little beauty will be four years old.  FOUR!  It's so hard to believe that so much time has passed since this little angel entered our lives.  This beautiful rainbow after a major deadly storm.  I thank God for her every, single, day!

She is a dear girl, and she does love to "try" to please me when I tell her let's go do pictures - she'll help pick out her outfit, she'll tell me how she's going to pose - and then when we get t here - she's complaining about the heat, the bugs, the possible snakes - you name we don't do long sessions - they last about five minutes - maybe without further are Olivia's four year old pictures - I am not including, in this blog post the ones of her complaining lol

The Space Between

The other day, I was talking to Olivia and she said "mama did you know I have a gap in my teeth?" and as I was looking at her when she asked me this question, she was frowning.....I said, "well yes" and she said "why didn't you tell me?"....I wasn't really sure how to respond to her question so I just said "why do you ask?" and she said that a girl at daycare told her she had a gap in her teeth and it made her feel bad......even at the age of 3 they can feel insecure about their appearance....we then proceeded to have a long conversation about all the wonderful things about her (inside and out) and she forgot about that gap...

Grocery Review

After a quick conversation with my sister Jessica, I decided to do a blog post on my favorite things that our family likes to purchase.

Trader Joe's


  • Roasted potatoes, peppers & onions
  • Shredded Potatoes
  • Mashed Potatoes
  • French Fries
  • Riced Cauliflower
  • Fire Roasted Bell Peppers & Onions
  • Zucchini Fries
  • Veggie Fried Rice
  • Tuna Burgers
  • Salmon Burgers
  • Maui Maui Burgers
  • Lavish Bread
Cold Storage
  • Lite Mozzarella Cheese
  • Salted Butter
  • Chicken Thighs (boneless/skinless)
  • Hummus
  • Rainbow Carrots
  • Baby Brussels Sprouts
  • Raw Almonds
  • Organic Chicken Stock
  • Organic Beef Stock


  • Chicken Tenders (raw/frozen)
  • Chicken Breasts (raw/frozen)
  • Orange Rouche



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